Before “Not Wanting to Be Hated” Destroys Your Life How to Build Relationships That Truly Suit You
- 日髙生智 NEWORLD9999
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Is “Having 100 Friends” Really the Right Answer?
When you become a first grader When you become a first grader Will you make a hundred friends?♪
It almost sounds like:
Having lots of friends is justice
Every child should aim for that
Having fewer friends means you lose
A kind of “cursed song,” in a way.
Even in manga and manifestation-related teachings, people often talk as if:
“Having smooth relationships = having lots of friends.”
But I’m not going to give that kind of explanation.
So What Is a Truly Good Relationship?
Human relationships become truly healthy when you arrive at
“the way of being you genuinely desire.”
At that point, your relationships begin to flow naturally, peacefully, and comfortably according to your own world standard.
That is what a truly good relationship looks like.
That is what I aim for.
And this time as well, I want to guide you toward
“the best form of relationships for you.”
Today’s Theme
This time, we’ll be looking at the overall story of:
and exploring the heroine Akiko’s way of handling human relationships.
This article assumes you’ve already read the story. If not, please read it first before continuing.
The Pain Akiko Carried
The story’s heroine, Akiko Sada.
As you can tell from Episode 2, she struggles deeply with human relationships.
Akiko wanted to:
chase her dreams
spend her time pursuing those dreams rather than constantly hanging out
That was what she truly wanted.
But at the same time, she believed:
“If I live that way, people will hate me.”
So she chose to:
endure no matter how painful it became
ignore the discomfort inside her
keep sacrificing herself
all in order to “fit in with everyone else.”
But “People Who Like Having Fun” Are Not Evil
Because the manga is told from Akiko’s perspective, it may sometimes look like:
people who just hang out are shallow
party people only care about themselves
But of course, that’s not true.
For many people, that lifestyle genuinely is their happiest and most fulfilling way of living.
The important point of this story is not:
“Which side is correct?”
That is not the issue here.
The Real Problem: She Chose a Way of Living That Didn’t Suit Her
The biggest cause of Akiko’s suffering was this:
She forced herself to endure a life that did not fit her.
That’s the core of it.
So now, let’s look at her horoscope.
What Akiko’s 7th House Revealed
The area that represents human relationships is the 7th House.
Akiko’s 7th House Sabian Symbol is:
Scorpio 6° | A Gold Rush
“After discovering something of absolute value to themselves, they become so obsessed that they throw everything into it, cutting away all else and immersing themselves beyond control.”
From this, we can see the kind of relationships that truly suit Akiko:
not shallow, wide social circles
but deep bonds with people who share the same passion and purpose
relationships where both people devote their lives fully to something together
And above all:
a level of immersion so intense that everything else can be cut away.
Akiko’s “Ideal Partner”
In other words, Akiko’s ideal relationship would be:
a comrade who struggles through the mud toward the same goal
a partner deeply committed to each other’s lives
someone who can look at her fanatical passion and say, “That’s amazing.”
an otaku companion she can obsess deeply with together
…which is exactly what Shotaro represented.
This was the kind of relationship Akiko was truly meant to pursue.
And Yet, She Walked in the Opposite Direction
But instead, Akiko suppressed that desire herself.
She pushed herself toward a life that fundamentally did not fit her.
Why?
Because she believed:
“Having a wide social circle is the correct way to live.”
But honestly?
If it doesn’t suit you, then it really doesn’t matter.
If We Could Truly Understand That “Everyone Is Different”
And from the bottom of my heart, I truly think this:
Please stop unconsciously teaching children that
“having lots of friends is absolute justice.”
Because if children could naturally understand that:
“Everyone has their own ideal kind of relationship.” “That child has their own best answer.”
Then I genuinely believe bullying in this world would decrease dramatically.
Next Time
Next up:
“How Would the 12 Zodiac Signs React If They Tried to Make 100 Friends?”
We’ll be diving into that next.