For Those Who Can’t Have a Normal Marriage | It’s Not a Flaw, It’s Your Design
For Those Who Can’t Have a “Normal” Marriage — It’s not your fault. It’s your design. —
Marriage is, for many people, a life goal. To live with the one you love, support each other, build a family, and stay together until the very end of life.
That is what most people consider a “normal, happy marriage.”
However—
There are people in this world who break when they try to pursue that “normal” marriage.
Don’t misunderstand. It doesn’t mean you’re destined to be unhappy.
➤ It simply means that path was never designed for you.
So if you feel like:
The more you aim for marriage, the more your relationships fall apart
Stable love never seems to last
You just can’t do “normal” no matter how hard you try
Then this matters.
The “Blueprint” of Marriage in Astrology
Western astrology can show tendencies, but Sanmeigaku and Zi Wei Dou Shu reveal them much more directly.
Here, we’ll look at configurations that collapse when you aim for a “normal” marriage.
① Sanmeigaku｜Special Heavenly Stems & Branches
— A design that deviates from the normal life path —
First, create your birth chart (free tools are available).
If the following combinations exist (in red)——
➤ The more you aim for a “normal marriage,” the more things will go off-track.
⚠ Caution (Tendency to Misalign)
➤ Types that feel discomfort in a normal marriage
Kōboku no Inu (甲戌) Otsuboku no I (乙亥) Heika no Inu (丙戌) Teika no I (丁亥) Bodo no Inu (戊戌) Kido no I (己亥) Kōkin no Inu (庚戌) Shinkin no I (辛亥) Jinsui no Inu (壬戌) Kisui no I (癸亥)
➤ Known as strong Inui (戌亥) Tenchū-satsu combinations
Key Traits
A gap between reality and ideals
Discomfort with the “family” structure
Things don’t align even when done “normally”
🚨 Intense (Likely to Collapse in Normal Marriage)
➤ Almost guaranteed distortion if following the normal route
Kōboku no Tatsu (甲辰) Otsuboku no Mi (乙巳) Heika no Tatsu (丙辰) Teika no Mi (丁巳) Bodo no Tatsu (戊辰) Kido no Mi (己巳) Kōkin no Tatsu (庚辰) Shinkin no Mi (辛巳) Jinsui no Tatsu (壬辰) Kisui no Mi (癸巳)
➤ Known as strong Tatsumi (辰巳) Tenchū-satsu combinations
✔ Core Principle (Important)
These special combinations mean:
➤ You are designed to glitch when living a normal life.
So if you try to:
Love normally
Marry normally
Build a normal family
➤ Something will inevitably distort.
✔ Solution (Sanmeigaku)
➤ The premise is to abandon “normal.”
Marriage with a 15+ year age gap
International or cross-cultural relationships
Living separately or unconventional marriage
In some cases, staying single is more stable
➤ Stability comes from choosing a partner who is also “off the norm.”
② Zi Wei Dou Shu｜Spouse Palace
— Ranking of stars that break normal marriage —
Look at your Spouse Palace.
If these stars are present:
➤ A “normal marriage” will collapse.
Recommended websites for free, easy-to-use birth charts:
🥉 No.3: Seven Killings (七殺) (+ Mars, Bell Star)
➤ Extreme / Direct / Combat-type
Poor at adapting to others
Black-and-white thinking
Intense starts, abrupt endings
Cannot function without respect
✔ Solution
➤ Don’t aim for emotional understanding—build roles instead
Don’t over-prioritize emotional sharing
Build purpose-based relationships
Personal space is essential
Trying to fully understand each other breaks it.
➤ Stability comes from being battle partners.
🥈 No.2: Greedy Wolf (貪狼) (+ Transformation Ji, Peach Blossom)
➤ Desire / Emotion / Social magnetism
Hard to stay with one person
Emotion-driven relationships
Love exists, but not stability
Once attached, hard to detach
✔ Solution
➤ Don’t suppress desire—diversify it
Create outlets outside romance (art, work, expression)
Verbalize and share your desires
Choose relationships that don’t require hiding
Suppression leads to hidden explosions.
➤ Stability comes from distributed fulfillment.
🥇 No.1: Po Jun (破軍) (+ Earth Rob, Earth Void)
➤ Destruction and reconstruction
Marriage is not the goal
Relationships are meant to reset
Sudden change or disappearance
And the core trait:
➤ You cannot maintain the current state.
It’s not that you want change— you simply cannot stay the same.
✔ Solution
➤ Don’t aim for an unbreakable relationship
Rebuild the relationship periodically
Define distance and rules in advance
Choose a partner who accepts change
The more you seek stability, the more it breaks.
➤ Stability comes from change-based relationships.
✔ Why is Po Jun so difficult?
(From here, using your manga as an example)
In your work: “That Winter Memory – Eternal Love, To You” (Episodes 1–11)
Akiko (with Po Jun) vs Takeda (without it)
The story follows Akiko, who wants to pursue her dreams, and Takeda, who wants to marry her.
Takeda is portrayed as someone who tries to stop Akiko from pursuing her dreams, but you’ll understand why once you’ve read up to Episode 10.
Takeda is not wrong.
He wants a stable marriage
He wants happiness within that structure
But Akiko cannot fit into that.
➤ “Why?”
That one word breaks everything.
People with Po Jun constantly think:
Is this really okay?
Can this be better?
Should this relationship evolve?
And they act on it.
Even if the relationship lasted 10 years— it doesn’t matter.
➤ That is why they are hard to understand.
But here’s the key:
Akiko is not “unlovable.”
➤ It works if someone can accept her nature
Like Shotaro in your story.
✔ Conclusion
You are not the problem.
➤ Your design is simply different.
If you aim for normal, it breaks. But—
➤ If you choose the right form, you can build a stronger bond than anyone else.
You are not “unsuited for marriage.” You are simply unsuited for a “normal marriage.”
The rest is simple.
➤ Follow your design and play accordingly.